Talking with kids is something like making a biryani. Right quantity in the eright time will you a best result. So I am going to share with you few tips and qusetions you can ask your kids in a way where you get a reply more than “I donno”.
Being a parent we forget the amount of activities that occur within a single day of school. When we can forget what happens in a day how can a small kid think about the stuffs they encounter in their life?
So I thought I can give you a consolidated set of queries which can help you to get that connect with the kid.
Frequently asked question “How was your day?”
As a parent everyone would have either asked or will ask “How was your day?” This is the natural way to get information is what we think. And the response you get from your toddler would be fine. Good, which is a non descriptive response.
BabyA also said the same when I asked that and I felt sad that her answers are non-descriptive.
I was breaking my head to get a descriptive response from her and then all of a sudden looked back to my past. Traveled to my school days to find out the solution for this. So felt my online family might need this advice so sharing my tips with you guys.
Learning about your kid’s activities
In babyA’s school they send out a newsletter to us on the activities they are planning for the month. So I am aware of the curriculum they are planning for the month and try to figure out the questions from that.
For e.g., Last week they celebrated Farmer’s day at school and the kids were asked to dress up like a farmer. So when she came Home the other day I asked her what all she tasted? Were her favorite food available in the farm setup? What are the animals she saw over there as a model? How big were they? Did she enjoy milking the cow model? These queries will lead to discussion based on the interest of the child.
Sample questions that can be asked:
As you guys know we plan our day on how to go with it. How our learning for a day is?So as I plan my activities plan for my day, I try to ask questions based on that. I use this strategy so that neither I nor her get bored and we get to learn more words as the day goes on. Maa shaa allah.
At the end of the day, whether its a child or an adult, we get excited to share the information when we give them a topic on what they are excited about.
Have consolidated few list of questions that can be used for building up the conversation.
- What was the first thing you did as soon as you entered the school?
- Did your teacher read a story today?
- Did you like that story? what did the story say?
- What was your friend (that child’s name) favorite part of the story?
- Did your teacher say anything on what to be done tomorrow?
- Are you excited to meet your friends tomorrow?
- What was the colors your friends dressed up in?
- What did you eat in the day? Did you like the food which mama has sent baby?
- Who did you sit by during lunch? What did you all talk about?
- Who did you play with today?
Why it is necessary to talk about school with your kids?
You might think what is the purpose of talking about school with your kids? What’s the need of it? By speaking about this topic I can understand how much my daughter is paying attention to the factors happening in their day-to-day life.
You might think what’s the need to ask about recess or group activities? This will help you understand on how your child is interacting with others. We will get an idea if there are issues with their friends. This will gain their trust and they will slowly consider us their moral support and they will know that they can speak everything with us in shaa allah.
Ultimately, to gain some valuable insight we need to ask some basic question. Aim to ask one academic question, one social question, and one open-ended question such as “What was your favorite part of your day?”