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Talk About School with Your Kids: Questions to Ask

Talking with kids is something like making a biryani. Right quantity in the eright time will you a best result. So I am going to share with you few tips and qusetions you can ask your kids in a way where you get a reply more than “I donno”.

Being a parent we forget the amount of activities that occur within a single day of school. When we can forget what happens in a day how can a small kid think about the stuffs they encounter in their life?

So I thought I can give you a consolidated set of queries which can help you to get that connect with the kid.

Frequently asked question “How was your day?”

As a parent everyone would have either asked or will ask “How was your day?” This is the natural way to get information is what we think. And the response you get from your toddler would be fine. Good, which is a non descriptive response.

BabyA also said the same when I asked that and I felt sad that her answers are non-descriptive.

I was breaking my head to get a descriptive response from her and then all of a sudden looked back to my past. Traveled to my school days to find out the solution for this. So felt my online family might need this advice so sharing my tips with you guys.

Learning about your kid’s activities

In babyA’s school they send out a newsletter to us on the activities they are planning for the month. So I am aware of the curriculum they are planning for the month and try to figure out the questions from that.

For e.g., Last week they celebrated Farmer’s day at school and the kids were asked to dress up like a farmer. So when she came Home the other day I asked her what all she tasted? Were her favorite food available in the farm setup? What are the animals she saw over there as a model? How big were they? Did she enjoy milking the cow model? These queries will lead to discussion based on the interest of the child.

Sample questions that can be asked:

As you guys know we plan our day on how to go with it. How our learning for a day is?So as I plan my activities plan for my day, I try to ask questions based on that. I use this strategy so that neither I nor her get bored and we get to learn more words as the day goes on. Maa shaa allah.

At the end of the day, whether its a child or an adult, we get excited to share the information when we give them a topic on what they are excited about.

Have consolidated few list of questions that can be used for building up the conversation.

  • What was the first thing you did as soon as you entered the school?
  • Did your teacher read a story today?
  • Did you like that story? what did the story say?
  • What was your friend (that child’s name) favorite part of the story?
  • Did your teacher say anything on what to be done tomorrow?
  • Are you excited to meet your friends tomorrow?
  • What was the colors your friends dressed up in?
  • What did you eat in the day? Did you like the food which mama has sent baby?
  • Who did you sit by during lunch? What did you all talk about?
  • Who did you play with today?

Why it is necessary to talk about school with your kids?

You might think what is the purpose of talking about school with your kids? What’s the need of it? By speaking about this topic I can understand how much my daughter is paying attention to the factors happening in their day-to-day life.

You might think what’s the need to ask about recess or group activities? This will help you understand on how your child is interacting with others. We will get an idea if there are issues with their friends. This will gain their trust and they will slowly consider us their moral support and they will know that they can speak everything with us in shaa allah.

Ultimately, to gain some valuable insight we need to ask some basic question.  Aim to ask one academic question, one social question, and one open-ended question such as “What was your favorite part of your day?”


I’m Salma Mehajabeen Shajahan aka alizehmysoul. I’m a parent of a 3 year Old, a mommy blogger, author, designer, and busy mom like you. Welcome to a place which supports mommies in their spiritual, motherhood, and parenting tips. Join me for amazing free printables only for AMS members. 2019 is the year of exciting new digital products being launched on AMS. Join the mommyhood and never miss an update or freebie. Connect with me anytime at I’d LOVE to hear from YOU!

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  1. Ruchi Verma says:

    I too feel that talking to kids when they are back from school is really important not only you get to know how things went but also they learn to trust you as a friend more while sharing big and small things!!

  2. a great to go post for we all parents and yes it is really important to question all the above questions ty for sharing such a useful post

  3. I so agree to the questions you had enumerated buddy and yeah the analogy with biryani stole my heart.

  4. Woow , you really cook very good biryani of stocks and I never so descriptive questions.

  5. Agree with you that we often ask a simple question “How was your day?” and just leave it at that.The set of questions you have compiled is really important to connect with our kids.Very thoughtful post.

  6. I love the overall approach of this post. I agree it is important to talk about school activities in a way where kids understand the process of learning and what will they going to learn in future.
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  7. That’s a very good way to go about asking the kids day and getting engaged with him. I too ask my kids’ such questions, but this list gonna surely help
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  8. This is a wonderful post & every parent of a school going child could relate to it. It’s important to talk about the school with kids and you have shared some really great questions which can help kids to talk about their day in detail.
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  9. Its really important to discuss these things with kids get an idea of how they are coping with scholling as a whole.
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  10. Judy Morris says:

    Yes indeed these questions are very important to be asked to kids. Activities that are done in school makes it easy to track daily progress of the child.

  11. I talk to my kids everyday when they’re back from school. It’s an advantage that they’re both very talkative and share all the events of the day with me.

  12. Deepika says:

    Agreed with the points you raised, it is very important to talk with kids about their day in the school. And the sample questions are the cherry on the cake. Well written post.

  13. I ask a lot about the school day to my 4 yr old, everything from what he did, who sat next to him, what he ate, did he enjoy the day or not. I think its a good way to know things they are doing, how they are coping up.

  14. Amrit Kaur says:

    It is necessary to talk to kids about school. This is an informative post and parents would relate to it.

  15. Aishwarya Sandeep says:

    Such a simple yet important tip. Just changing the way you ask the question helps you to get the right answers from children

  16. Surbhi Mahobia says:

    What a lovely article. Kids don’t really give accurate answers to the open-ended questions. They have to be asked the precise questions.

  17. Cindy Ann Dsilva says:

    Totally agree. We always make it a point to ask about the day, activities, friends and food. Communication is the key. Not one sided.

  18. Nitya says:

    Its sucha cool way for interactive learning and ensuring growth of child 🙂 I loved it 🙂

  19. Gayatri Deshmukh says:

    Hey. This is a nice post. Beautifully written. I totally agree with your how was your day point. Keep writing!

  20. Urvashi says:

    Very nicely put together. These questions definitely helps me to connect with my son .

  21. Akanksha Singh says:

    My son is 1.5 years as of now but as fast as he is growing up i am so anxious about how I am going to deal with all the school thing.. it is a whole lot of exercise… Saved up your post so that future myself won’t be troubled much on the topic

  22. Pallavi Tiwari says:

    Thanks for sharing ,this post is an eye opener for many though I do question my son as soon as he returns from his play.

  23. MeenalSonal says:

    Talking to kids about their day at school has a vital role to play in parent child relationship. We come to know about many things through their day activities.

  24. Manytraits | Farheen Khan says:

    such an informative post. I have never tried these questions with Ayan, all I ask him is how was your day? and what did you learn, to which he replies with a lot of disinterest? I will try this and make things interesting for him next time. thanks for sharing this 🙂
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