Al hamdulilah we have reached the second 10 days of Ramadan and looking at our condition at home and other mommies in masjid I would want to remind each and everyone one thing that almighty has asked us to do through our prophet Muhammad s.a.w. [peace be upon him]
Due to the climatic change and sudden change in environment my daughter has become ill. So she is cranky and wants me to be near her 24/7. Al hamdulilah I enjoy this phase too as I have made up my mind when I gave birth that she needs my attention and its my duty to take care of her. But felt bad when few not all mommies said while coming to masjid please do teach her how to behave in masjid. Hey common sisters she is a toddler who is not yet 2 and she is in her exploration stage and she will adapt to the environment soon in shaa Allah!! My way of parenting is different compared to yours. I follow gentle parenting. This is what our prophet too said. I don’t complaint or name call! I just wanted to use this opportunity to mention here that kids too have a bad day. When their mood is not good we can’t expect them to behave like an adult.
When the kids/toddlers go out of their control and cry instead of scolding them talk to them and ask them the reason and make them understand the reason of their bad mood. Give them the assurance that as parents we will be near them in shaa Allah
If you follow this piece of advice for 30 days Allah would be happy and kids will be happy too. You can withstand your mental peace!!
It is when you are about to become angry, or when your toddler shows a tantrum, or when you are in namaz the kids make noise and disturb your namaz or about to shame someone that you want to react to it, then say to yourself “I’m fasting. I’m fasting.” and pray for the concerned person to Allah!!
Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Fasting is a shield, so (the one who is fasting) should not utter obscenities or behave in an ignorant manner. If someone wants to fight him or insults him, let him say, ‘I am fasting. I am fasting’.” (Al Bukhari and Muslim)
Before all these just think what will you do if you had a child? Or have we not cross this stage as a toddler mommy? Instead of giving them mental support why do you wanna insult them? I am fasting is the word which will be pause action before reacting wrong. So 30 days of this will become an habbit and after Ramadan you will be changing towards Gentle parenting which Almighty commanded us to become in shaa Allah!!