It’s the month of November and we are going to complete 17 months soon in shaa Allah! Earlier Shopping was a difficult task as we will have to go to a shop research about the product and then analyse if we need them and then buy it but now the scenario is completely different. Sitting in front of a gadget shopping is just a click away ! With the social media mode ON we get lot of choices and we tend to forget if we have that particular product in our home and buy them again?? So this post is about people who z think our babies need to be given the best and buy stuffs without understanding if the child is interested in that particular product or not. In this era, parents feel that they shouldn’t compare and fall in the trap. If a particular mom sees a product even without analysing they get it for their kid.
I am just saying before buying stuffs for the kids please do think if it’s really needed? Not every single product in the market is necessary for our baby.
Before thinking about a product answer these simple questions
1. Is it just a toy? Does it have any value?
2. Is it age appropriate?
3.Is it for me or my child?
4. Is it relating to my child’s interest?
5. Do I have any stuff similar to this kind at home?
6. Will my child really understand the importance of money?
If the answer is satisfying then go for it else we will skip it.
For e.g. One of my friends got a magnatile for her kid from xyz vendor and she got the same product from the another vendor too. So here the product is replica. Is it really necessary for the kiddo?? I don’t think so it’s important. Let’s encourage mompreuners but within our limits too as we need loads of money for the future ventures.
With the Thanks giving offers going on I was tempted to get the indoor slide for my daughter. I even convinced my husband to make the payment as he strongly believes that I won’t spend money in useless stuff but before hitting the Pay NOW button I stopped and asked Is it a luxury one?? Yes it’s a Luxury stuff for sure. If we own the Slide at home then for sure going to park will be a question mark in the future! If we don’t go out how will she make friends? How will she socialize? So made up our mind to not get it. If a ball pit, slide, swing, etc is accessible at home for them then when and how will they explore nature?
Being a mommy of a One year Old I really feel it’s not necessary to spend in toys. It’s with my experience. We got her rattles and rattles that’s it as that’s the main thing she would like in that age. Anything with music is what they like in that age. I invested in few books too as I was brought up in that way.
Even too much of books is a kind of pressure i would say. Let kids be taken to the library and let them use the public library for usage of books.
Please don’t fall for the peer mommy pressure and get the stuff for your kid. Analyse and do a research if your kid will be happy with the particular product or learn with it.
A one year old will like to play with empty boxes, bottles, shoes, broom and dustpan than the costly stuffs you get for your kid. When they like to use them allow them so that they will be happy. If you feel it’s wrong use positive statements and chance the habit.
Experience and time is important for the kid than the money you spend on the product. More than indoors take them outdoors and let them enjoy the nature in their own way. Let them get dirty as it’s good. The West is researching and now says Attachment parenting is best, cosleeping is best, carrying the baby is best which our forefathers said years ago. So instead of following the Western culture let’s chin up with pride our own old traditional ways to make the kids enjoy the nature and get them maximum joy with just minimal toys.
If you feel if I am right share the message happily!! Happy thanksgiving