BabyA was a sweet girl when it comes to sleep. She had a perfect routine maa shaa allah. She used to sleep in time and wake up in time. Then came a sudden change where she went to bed late as we used to offer Ramadhan prayers together. I made up my mind that I will fix her routine after Eid and then came my vacation at my sister’s place. She changed her sleep pattern there too as she missed her dad. Then came our home shifting process, a new place, new environment and we are fighting for naps still.Boom!! We entered the 2 year sleep regression phase!! If at all she naps she goes to bed late in the night. With so much hussles and change in our lifestyle was worried and even felt i should skip the nap if she fights for it. Too much of thinking made me realise I should deal with this. I should be able to differentiate between want and need. What she needs right now is 12 to 14 hours of sleep inclusive of naps. But she wants is to play and to explore each and every moment in her day! She doesn’t want to miss any moment in her day. She wants to explore, enjoy all the precious moments in her day. Is it possible? Will I be able to allow her to do this? I clearly know her body needs rest. If she doesn’t sleep she gets more tired and result in crankiness till she hits the night sleep. So made up my mind to make her sleep no matter what. We created a nap time routine too. As soon as we complete our lunch we will hit our bed with books of her choice. We will read those books and speak about it. Once done she will have to sleep. It will take time as she will resist. But her body clock will understand the process and will get tuned to this system in shaa allah.
This two’s stage is difficult for each and every parent to deal with I guess. We are also dealing with food strike right now. Each and everything are related and we are trying to settle down.
This is the stage when kids get more imaginative than the little ones. Separation anxiety gets started at this stage in depth. They are more nervous to be separated from the family and need a bit more attention in the evening to feel connected and safe as they hit the bed. The kid needs must be validated but not minimised at any cost.
The only thing we say to her right now is We love you a lot and you are Safe in Allah’s hands. These powerful words are very important to kids. They trust us to the core. According to them We are big and they are small and they are comfortable to be with us.
I was about to give in to my child’s feelings. But these three things made me to win the scenario.
1.Validate your child’s feelings.
2.Keep your limits and boundaries firm.
3.This regression, too, shall pass.
With the tips above we have tried to settle the phase. I have understood the concept of differentiating the NEED and WANT. so we are working on smoothing the process. It’s been a week now that we are settling down. In shaa allah with the clarity in my mind we will cross this regression and settle down in shaa allah!!
Do share with us in the comments section about your experience in handling the sleep regression!!